I’m Jun, I’m 25 turning 26 this May, and bi + trans/nonbinary, which is an important factor as to why I’m having this fundraiser.
For years, I’ve been dropping off innocuous hints to my parents that I’m not heterosexual and cisgender, and they just keep dismissing it. I’ve let them read my explicitly queer creative writing thesis that I made during college and they still don’t get it. It’s really not helping that my mom is apprehensive of gender neutrality and the LGBT community, not to mention that her father (my grandfather) is extremely homophobic/transphobic.
As long as I live under the same roof as my parents, I cannot freely express myself. I keep having my hair cut short and my mother keeps commenting on how it looks terrible on me and that it’s pissing her off. It’s not really helping that she never stops making comments on my weight and what I eat. She won’t even let me settle for any job that happens upon my way and shoves other ideas into my face, such as studying abroad (which sounds unreasonable and expensive at the same time), and living with my grandfather for a short period of time this summer. Don’t get me started on the fact that I’ve started practicing withcraft, I don’t think my Catholic family will ever come to terms with that either!
Among most Filipinos, family is considered something very important, and anything you do that is unfavorable in their eyes means you’re tarnishing their image and bringing shame. Because of this, I want to distance myself from them slowly instead of waiting for the time I am outed or exposed and then kicked out (worst case scenario).
This is a fundraiser with a time limit, because the best birthday gift I’d love to receive this May would be true freedom and independence.
So please, even if you can’t donate, I’d highly appreciate it if you spread this around!
Hey, I’m Jun, I’m 25 turning 26 this May. I’m also bi and nonbinary/trans with mental health issues and a controlling mother, which are big reasons for me to make this post. Given my credentials and less than stellar mental health, it’s hard for me to find a job that’ll sustain me (₱10,000/$191.41 a month is the minimum wage in my country). It’s not helping that the longer I stay under the same roof as my mother, my mental health and emotional well-being is affected. My family will most definitely react negatively if they ever find out that I’m not cisgender AND heterosexual; worst case scenario is that they’ll kick me out, so I’ll have to distance myself first in order to avoid that.
Also, this reminded me that I wanted to change my Amazon Smile donation to something that would help Flint, so I changed it so a portion of my purchases will be donated to the Community Foundation of Greater Flint.
LET YOUR ART BE UGLY!!! LET YOUR WRITING BE BAD!!! DANCE OFFBEAT!!! SING OFF KEY!!! LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO LET YOUR FEAR OF NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH PREVENT YOU FROM LEARNING AND ENJOYING NEW THINGS!!!
The minute I started letting myself screech through songs that were a little too high for me was the moment my range started growing.
Growth is inevitable if you simply let yourself fail a little and be happy about it
Exactly! And of course you shouldn’t strain yourself or force yourself to do something you know could hurt, but staying in your comfort zone means your comfort zone can never get bigger, and it carries over into other parts of your life. Live a little!
Hey, I’m Jun, I’m 25 turning 26 this May. I’m also bi and nonbinary/trans with mental health issues and a controlling mother, which are big reasons for me to make this post. Given my credentials and less than stellar mental health, it’s hard for me to find a job that’ll sustain me (₱10,000/$191.41 a month is the minimum wage in my country). It’s not helping that the longer I stay under the same roof as my mother, my mental health and emotional well-being is affected. My family will most definitely react negatively if they ever find out that I’m not cisgender AND heterosexual; worst case scenario is that they’ll kick me out, so I’ll have to distance myself first in order to avoid that.
I’m Jun, I’m 25 turning 26 this May, and bi + trans/nonbinary, which is an important factor as to why I’m having this fundraiser.
For years, I’ve been dropping off innocuous hints to my parents that I’m not heterosexual and cisgender, and they just keep dismissing it. I’ve let them read my explicitly queer creative writing thesis that I made during college and they still don’t get it. It’s really not helping that my mom is apprehensive of gender neutrality and the LGBT community, not to mention that her father (my grandfather) is extremely homophobic/transphobic.
As long as I live under the same roof as my parents, I cannot freely express myself. I keep having my hair cut short and my mother keeps commenting on how it looks terrible on me and that it’s pissing her off. It’s not really helping that she never stops making comments on my weight and what I eat. She won’t even let me settle for any job that happens upon my way and shoves other ideas into my face, such as studying abroad (which sounds unreasonable and expensive at the same time), and living with my grandfather for a short period of time this summer. Don’t get me started on the fact that I’ve started practicing withcraft, I don’t think my Catholic family will ever come to terms with that either!
Among most Filipinos, family is considered something very important, and anything you do that is unfavorable in their eyes means you’re tarnishing their image and bringing shame. Because of this, I want to distance myself from them slowly instead of waiting for the time I am outed or exposed and then kicked out (worst case scenario).
This is a fundraiser with a time limit, because the best birthday gift I’d love to receive this May would be true freedom and independence.
So please, even if you can’t donate, I’d highly appreciate it if you spread this around!
